I regret if this title is a bit crass for your tastes. It’s the new motto I’ve adopted and embraced for a number of months now and loses a bit of the necessary punch without the “fuck” part of it.
It just came to me one day. It might have been when my computer upgraded to the latest version of Safari which didn’t mesh well with posting pictures on my blog and my struggle to come up with a solution. Family and friends suggested that I try a different browser, even if just for writing blog posts. I was resistant to this idea because I’m a minimalist of sorts and couldn’t imagine having more than one browser on my computer, each with different purposes… yadda yadda. That’s when I decided to Just Get The Fuck Over It and download one of the suggested browsers. I went with Firefox first since it’s often getting good reviews and I was relieved to see that I hated it as much as I thought I would. I un-installed it and went for Google Chrome. This time I was completely surprised because it turns out I love this browser and I easily said goodbye to Safari.
I’m seeing evidence every time I Just Get The Fuck Over It, that things can be great any number of ways. There can be more than one right way or one right solution. It feels so good and so freeing to have choice and try something new. It’s true that trying something new doesn’t always result in things getting better but you never know until you try.
This motto works for a number of scenarios that may seem insignificant but have some impact on the ease of my life. I’ve often said, with a bit of a snicker that I work so hard to bring peace to my life and at times it seems that I become too focussed on the effort rather than the happiness! Just Getting The Fuck Over things is the opposite of working hard to find peace. It’s just allowing things to be and feeling good about that.
There are many moments in my life now that I hear Just Get The Fuck Over It in my head and I smile and get over whatever it was that was stopping me from moving forward or being happy.
(I’d meant to publish this way back in November… I might just get caught up with all my unpublished posts one of these days…)
I laughed out loud when I read the title in my email.
This is what I say in my head more and more. Having 9 month old twins may have something to do with it.
I moved to Firefox when I first got a Mac – I never enjoyed using Safari… not exactly sure of all the reasons but it just didn’t seem to get a feng shui feeling when I used it.
Love using FireFox… and yes most times I tell myself LET IT GO or Just get over it or It IS what It IS…
Some things you would like to be different but sometimes that JUST AIN’T GONNA Happen… I like Let It Go… Let it go through the cycle of things.. think about it, maybe it bother you, ask yourself – can I do anything about this, should I do anything about this, IS it really that important in the scheme of things…. haha Breathe… and Let it goooo…. Breathe again… move on… feel 100 times better….
Courtney
I do love a good swear word, properly placed.
Well-done, my dear.
:)
And I’m glad it’s working for you.
xo,
s
I think I needed to read this. Yup I needed to. So many people to relate to, hoping they are completely themselves, owning their processes, without the guilt or pressure of what I do being gunnysacked into their emotional states.
Life is complicated…so get the %^*& over it. I’m finding it hilarious how I can’t type the word you chose ;-)
~Erin, who spat out her tea when she read about a brownie recipe and then scrolled down a little ;-) (I’ve just never heard you swear before…hee-hee)
my sentiments exactly.
I agree with Stacy. Letting off a little steam in a silly word can free up some energy for the “getting on” part. It’s a little slap on the wrist, a reminder bell, a blush that gets the blood flowing. Besides, we can’t take ourselves so seriously if we want to revel in the peace instead of straining with the effort.
Dear Annie,
this post made me think of so many things, I don’t know if I’ll be able to mention them all without sounding convoluted!
I think the ‘crassness’ of the word is just what we need sometimes. It helps us get through the BS! I’m going through some stuff right now in which that sentence is key. It is so liberating! Will my decision matter in a year, a month, 6 months? Do I want to define myself on all the decisions, bad or good that I’ve ever made? Sometimes it comes down to: Do I really want to be ‘right’ about this, or is this just about control?
I just finished reading Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, a book I haven’t read in years, and he speaks exactly of what you mentioned about working so hard to bring peace to your life. Truth cannot exist amongst too many thoughts, too much searching, because truth just exists.
Thanks for the post,
It was great :)
G
Well now. I do love a well placed “eff” bomb when reading someone’s blog. Though I rarely swear outloud these days I am weary of all the (fake)perfectness out there in blog land. Thanks for keeping it real! And the brownie recipe…I think I might have it for breakfast.
Ha! Thanks for all the fucking awesome comments!
Erin- I admit my language is colourful more often than I enjoy. I’ve often wondered if it comes in part from growing up in a house that forbid “bad words”- some phrases not even considered swear words. I’m not interested in giving words that kind of negative power.
I was listening to a program on CBC recently about how curse words are triggered by the part in our brain that deals with movement and not from the speaking/making words part of our brain. What a completely terrible explanation, sorry! It was super interesting.
Courtney- one of the biggest problems with firefox is that it is s l o w. You should try chrome and you’ll be blown away!
G- I know of this book but haven’t read it. I’ll have to find it!
I’ve loved each and every comment too. I grew up in a house where swearing was really common (dad was a air force pilot and a pro hockey player), but it was often aimed at people hurtfully though cleverly indirectly, and I became an extraordinary swearer by the age of fifteen and kept it up well into my 30’s. Then a lightbulb of a personal nature went off and i really curbed it, even mentally changing my thoughts, responses and expressions. I decided I wanted more connection and less turning off in my relationships, and sought out ways to enhance that as I was never great at making friends with ease. If you know me in the recent 5-10 years you will know this change, otherwise you would likely think I was a little too squeaky clean ;-)
So just so y’all know, it was a desire to change my communication overall that helped me to see that for me the swearing wasn’t working. Since language is so universal, I wanted to become more authentic with mine, and growin my languaging. I wanted to learn how to express with feeling words what I was feeling, instead of relying on a shock-value expression of them. I’ve realized that I am sensitive to it, and I get quite shocked in an uncomfortable way when it is present unnecessarily. I don’t tend to visit blogs or other communities where swearing is present in every third post. I prefer to maintain a sense of sensitivity towards swearing rather than become desensitized to it. I’ve actually decided for myself only, that it seems to represent violent communication, as opposed to non-violent communication in my exchanges.
Where I have greater ease receiving it, is in exactly this post, where it is not common-place, and has a purpose and is not the focus of the post, the intention behind and underneath is key. It’s great to begin my morning with some fresh inspiration uncovering more of this about myself. Thanks for all of your thoughts as well!! :)
~Erin xo
I am glad you didn’t post this in November – I needed to read this today!
Fantastic!
This could really be my mantra. I needed this!
Holy shit! I love you Annie! I totally need to get the fuck over some things lately. And ditto about what Erin said–I saw the yummy brownies and wasn’t expecting this! So great and well said :)
It’s not the same thing to swear at someone as it is to just swear, like when you stub a toe, is it? Certain language can definitely turn violent quickly. I suppose I was very lucky to miss out on that kind of upbringing but then I think the words were just different- nicer but still damaging. “Stupid Little Girl”. ugg.
I think in some ways I’m moving in the same direction as you are. (Don’t choke on your tea, Paxye and Justine) I’d like my words to be more intentional and thought out but then there are still lots of moments when it seems right, at least from the perspective of what’s going on inside of me, that more colourful language comes out. I’m careful to be sensitive when I’m in certain people’s company so maybe that tells me I could be doing better? I likely talked about GTFOI when we were together last but left out the f part. I’m glad I didn’t use it because I’m sure that irl usage is a bit harder to stomach than in this one blog post!
Thanks so much for your further comment, Erin. I’m so enjoying getting to know you better! I would love to have tea with you or a few walks and talk some more. xx
You guys all made my day with the comments. Thank you so much!
I’m way behind on my blog reading (as usual) but saw the title in my reader and had to come check it out. Great post. I’m actually pretty laid back and I think sometimes maybe too much so. Kris will sometimes be really worried about something and ask me why I’m not and I just tend to shrug and tell him I’m sure things will work themselves out. So far they always have. ;) I feel there’s no point in worrying about things you can’t change, and if you can change it then you should do so!
And for the record, I was really resistant to changing browsers when Kris suggested Chrome, but I finally did and I love it too.
Hurray! I love this. I wouldn’t have had the courage to spit it out there all raw-like but I love you more because you did. I too effort and agonize over the journey in a way that is often ridiculous. WTF. Thanks for the inspiration.
love it- gtfoi