I thought I’d make a separate post to respond to some of the comments I’ve had about my Useless Baby Product posts.
You’re so judgemental!
Yes, well you’d be the best judge of that. (I say this with humour because irony is funny!)
Having opinions and making judgements are a good way of figuring out one’s values and what’s important to us. Certainly judgements can turn unproductively personal but more often than I’m sure we’d all like to admit, they look ugly because someone feels defensive in their choice to do something different than the “judger” would.
Even outwardly unproductive judgements can be productive if they’re used as red flags for unmet needs.
Don’t underestimate the leash. It gives a wandering child a sense of freedom while keeping them near and dear. <snip> My son was able to walk and wander as aimlessly as I let him. Like I said, he has autism and I have other children. I suppose I could have kept him strapped into a stroller when we went on walks to keep him safely restrained….
This brings up a good point. What about children with disabilities?
I don’t have children with disabilities which probably explains why I don’t write about them. I was talking to a friend (who does have children with disabilities) last week about an autistic child who purposely hits his head repeatedly on concrete outside if it’s available. He may be a prime candidate for a helmet like the one I wrote about in my first post. I’m not sure how the silly little ears on top of the helmet are of any purpose but who am I to say.
The point is, perhaps there is usefulness to some of these products but not when it comes to most people, most children, most families and certainly not to anyone interested in parenting in a more natural or unrefined way and yet these products are all marketed to the general public for everyday use.
In my not so humble opinion (it is my blog anyway), a more natural approach to parenting would never look for a way to “restrain” a child unless in the case of using Protective Use of Force. In my opinion, it’s worth finding ways for children to be free and use their natural curiosities whether they have disabilities or not. It would be a sad life indeed if you only ever got to experience it from the end of a leash or strapped into a stroller. Certainly it must be more work to find ways to give disabled children the opportunity to live without restraint but it would be well worth it- in my opinion, of course.
the crib tent can be helpful as a tool to keep pets out of the crib (it’s not simply a way to keep a child in). my brother & SiL had their children in the crib from day 1 and used the crib tent to both keep the cats out and the kids in.
Crib cage/tent is useless because cribs are completely unnecessary. Babies are meant to be close to mom and are better off for it. Babies can easily nap on a bed with or without mom beside them. The key is whether or not mom is present, literally, intellectually and emotionally. If she is than the kind of “safety” a baby needs changes drastically. You don’t have to rely on *stuff* to take responsibility for your dear child.
Night time parenting is a hot topic. There are many parents out there that struggle with the idea that our children are not gadgets to switch off or be trained to have their needs ignored when the sun goes down. Babies and young children will most probably need to nurse every couple hours (at least) and even more so when they have growth spurts. They will need to nurse often when they are teething or sick. They may wake because they have to pee or are in a wet diaper. These are all facts that many parents seem to want to ignore. Parenting your child at night doesn’t have to be as difficult as so many parents make it. It’s much more satisfying for everyone involved to take a relaxed, no pressure, no agenda, compassionate stance and meet your small child’s needs and not do cio and other baby training to your child.
It’s a choice to buy into the birth/baby/child industry and buy any of these baby products you do not need and your baby is undoubtedly better without. I don’t get it but there’s no question it’s “normal” in the world we live in today to want to amass stuff. This stuff, that stuff, new stuff, old stuff, the latest stuff, the stuff we see famous people amassing.