Last year at this time I was blogging about going to a boat access only community to celebrate the new year. I made masks for a masquerade party and we had the BEST time. This year we’re leaving town again, although this time unexpectedly. Cam’s step mother and her best friend were killed tragically in a car accident. She lived in the Bulkley Valley and we’re heading there tomorrow to be with Cam’s sister, who’s just flown in from across the country, during this terrible time.
We’re doing okay. Cam didn’t have much of a relationship with his step mother ever in the more than thirty years she was a part of his family. Perhaps uncouth to speak ill of the dead but she could be a very unkind person, especially when Cam was young. We lost touch completely after Cam’s dad died suddenly and she gave all his dad’s cherished fishing and wood working items to her own sons and saved nothing for Cam. She tossed out most of his dad’s things, including the journals he wrote in every day. Cam and his dad were both very sentimental people and Cam has little left to remember him by. It was really wrong what his step mother did and not at all what Cam’s dad would have wanted. Hopefully Cam will be able to now get his father’s ashes, at least if they can be found in the shed where his step mother apparently kept them. Cam would like to see his dad’s wishes honoured and spread his ashes at his favourite fishing spot, which was also where he died almost eight years ago.
In many ways, Cam’s step mother’s death feels like a relief in it’s finality and yet I’m so sad for those suffering from this loss. Strange conflicting feelings.
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. ~ Theodore Roosevelt
We will go and be with Cam’s sister this week. We’ll go for a ski or two, maybe some walks in the snow and spend time with friends around the wood stove. Through it all, we’ll remember all the things we’re grateful for. For our friends, our health and happiness.
I wish you all a Happy New Year!
Please read an update to this post here.