Why must some adults talk to children as if they always want to manipulate them? Why can’t all adults just talk to children like the people they are?
There’s nothing worst than an overly obnoxious adult using sing song super praise at a volume that could be heard over a freight train. Okay, it is worst when they also continually refer to themselves in the third person while doing it. I’m sure many of these people are well intentioned but don’t seem to get that you don’t have to coerce and manipulate children into doing whatever it is you’re asking.
“Oh boy! What a GOOD job! You’re standing still. SUPER!”
Yay! Standing still. For real?
“GOOD GIRL! GOOD BOY!”
Isn’t this how we talk to our dogs?
“Uh oh, who’s not standing where they’re suppose to? Uh oh. Oh no. Who’s not standing where they’re supposed to? Who’s not being good? So many are being super but not everyone. Who’s not being SUPER right now?”
Geez. Why not just directly tell the child in the “wrong” place where they should be?
Maybe I should follow Brad’s lead (from a different story) and retort “GOOD praising!”
These are often the same people that talk about a child when they are standing right in front of them. Children deserve respect and dignity like the rest of us.
The thing that really gets me though is that the efforts to manipulate children’s behaviour with praise are not only ineffectual but gives the exact opposite results!
An oldie but a goodie: Five Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job!”
This kind of communication with children doesn’t set my teeth on edge in small doses. It’s when it’s more in my face and all I can hear or when it’s directed at my child that makes my head hurt. It’s so needless and counterproductive!